Communication A Key To Successful Relationships

As children, we are continuously asking questions, eager to learn, and wanting to know why most when we are told no. We are great at communicating our feelings and making sure we are heard loud and clear especially when unhappy.

So, why as adults, have lost our learned techniques of expressing our feelings? It is as if we have lost our voice, forgetting how to form our thoughts, and translate them into words. When we do not express our feelings, they churn deep within us, swirling around grabbing hold of negative thoughts, which can possibly cause anger within. This newly built-up anger can contribute to undue stress, which can affect our health.

A healthy relationship needs to include regular communication. Not, the typical question, how was your day, followed by fine. It is more than just a daily blanket question. It is about talking to your partner when you are unhappy, excited, troubled, or just need someone to listen in a compassionate manner without giving feedback.

It can be difficult to express your feelings with your partner if there is some part of your relationship that you are unhappy with. Although many times, your partner may have had the same feelings but didn’t want to express them because of possibly hurting you. Being open and honest in a kind manner will help build a strong bond between both you and your partner for years.

By not expressing how you are feeling, your relationship could eventually grow apart. Once this happens, it becomes more difficult to talk openly with one another.

Gather your words carefully and express your feelings in a meaningful way without targeting one another. The first talk may not go as smoothly as you had planned, but the more communication between each other, the easier and smoother discussions will go. Attentively listening to your partner and expressing your feelings, you will realize how much commonality on viewpoints that you probably have. You will gain more respect for one- another and your relationship will flourish.